finding the courage to allow yourself to be seen fully ... as you are
- Salma Summers
- Jan 23, 2020
- 3 min read
i heard someone say the other day that people can only see what you present to them, they can’t see your insides or what is going on within you.
for most of us, the image we project into the world and what we are actually feeling are incongruent.
any time there is incongruency within our life, we are out of balance which means we are out of alignment.
from this space, everything feels out of control, and reaching the state of flow becomes nearly impossible.
life becomes difficult and everything pushes us to want to escape. but why not just go directly to the root of the issue?
what false belief is even at the root of this?
the root belief is, feelings and emotions are dangerous - being angry or upset is wrong - to bury emotions is the key to living a good life.
in order to heal we have to stop denying the amount of craziness that we have been programmed with.
we have to understand that we have all been conditioned with lies that dictate the way we live and function as a WHOLE society.
choosing different thoughts and ways of living will make you an outcast of society and will stir within you, feelings of inadequacy. this is why it is important to reverse the ways in which we cope with what is happening in our lives. we have to reprogram this belief that it is better to bury the things that bother us than to speak about them.
you are not a burden. your life is not a burden. you deserve to create safe spaces for yourself where you can look at anything and everything for what it is.
if you try to change the outside before changing the inside, you will be gaslit into thinking that you are the problem, however, you're not. you’re awakening to the problem, which is the program that keeps us in cycles that don’t serve us.
so sure, you may have toxic traits that you picked up on - you may have unhealthy attachment styles and unhealthy ways of coping with things, but how are you supposed to heal if you don’t look at these things in a productive way?
you can’t shame yourself into healing.
if i didn’t have the courage to have difficult conversations about some of the stuff i have been hiding and ashamed of for years, i wouldn’t have accomplished half the healing that i have.
healing requires visibility. you have to allow the deepest parts of yourself to be seen. you do this by talking to someone who can hold the space for you, this is why therapists, coaches, and mentors are life-changing.
throughout your life you have picked up on beliefs that say that it is inappropriate to feel certain things and so anytime you do feel these things you push them down. this creates literal energetic blocks within your being - which makes it harder to allow energy to flow.
but life is meant to flow - life is meant to be simple.
these blocks that stop our natural flow of energy is what makes life difficult. however, these blocks can be released, it takes the courage to let yourself be seen - not the aspects of you that you deem worthy but all of you.
p.s. you can accept something about yourself that you want to work on releasing. ironically, once you accept the thing is when you are able to release it (whether this is a bad habit or a toxic relationship or anything else that doesn't serve you) ... be kind to yourself. you may never be perfect, but you are ALWAYS worthy.
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