healing ourselves using our triggers
- Salma Summers
- Nov 7, 2019
- 3 min read
we have to get extremely honest with ourselves on the healing journey.
because it will bring up a lot of ugliness. and a lot of times the ugliness that we see in others is not them but their conditioning. it is also our conditioning and until we slow down and pinpoint our own conditioning we will continue to think other people are the problem.
this is not to get confused with the fact that we live in a universe where all people have free will and individual egos. so someone choosing to be an asshole isn’t a reflection of you. however, pay attention to how you respond because that is your mirror.
you don’t have to take responsibility for people’s choices. you just have to get radically honest with yourself when shit ticks you off.
and ask yourself, why did that bother me?
why does something someone else says or does, bother me?
triggers (that hot rush of emotions that come over us when we perceive injustice) are actually pointers towards our conditioning.
so when they come over us, it is an opportune time to do some deep inner work.
grab your journal and write away until you get to the point where you are no longer blaming.
eventually what we come to recognize is that our triggers are actually not much about the event but more so about a deeply rooted pain point that we are remembering.
look at it this way, your conditioning is based on past childhood experiences. say, you felt hopeless or powerless to certain experiences and you didn’t know how to release the emotions or how to deal with being violated. and these trauma-inducing experiences are now held in your body.
everytime someone does or says something that reminds you of that feeling you haven’t yet released, that same memory will be poked and you will be washed over with whatever emotion you felt back in your childhood.
the tricky part is that our minds are really good at pushing back traumatic memories. so a lot of us have a lot of trauma that we aren’t even aware of.
triggers are an opportunity for us to do some deep healing work.
this is how therapy works. you go in and you're frustrated about something and your therapist leads you through a process of understanding where that frustration really originates. and when you get to the origin of what is causing the emotional triggers, you begin the process of forgiving that experience which in turn allows you to release the emotions that you are storing in your body.
but a lot of people don’t go to therapy.
so what can you do to release these emotions today?
start with getting a notebook and label this your triggers notebook.
everytime you are emotionally triggered bring this notebook out and write down exactly what caused the trigger. then use these prompts to go deeper.
journal:
what am i feeling?
when did i first feel this way?
where do i feel this in my body?
who do i need to forgive?
the trajectory of our lives lies in whether we choose to love ourselves or not. healing ourselves is the first step to self-love and self-worth. our success is 100% dependent on how much we value ourselves.
vibrating higher isn’t just about smudging and using your crystals and all the pretty magical stuff.
it is also about going deep into our conditioning and understanding that we are not it. we are not what has hurt us. we are not the hurt we have caused and it is okay to let go of the stories that no longer serve us.
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