holiday triggers & how to use them to your advantage
- Salma Summers
- Dec 25, 2019
- 3 min read
happy holidays!
i hope this holiday break is giving you the opportunity to take a minute or two to do some deep reflecting on the past year. for me, 2019 has been a year of realizations.
i realized that the truth can never be argued with. and afterward, i started to find so much beauty in the messiness of everyday life.
only when we try to overlay (cover shit with gold plating) do we truly suffer.
just because you decide to cover something rotten with a beautiful exterior, doesn’t stop that thing from being rotten.
your life is built on a foundation.
most foundations (aka belief systems) are rotten and based on lack and unworthiness.
these past few years, i had to come to terms with the fact that my foundation was rotten. i had to uproot the foundation i built on lack, which at one point caused me to feel identity-less. i thought i was going crazy.
but it dawned on me that a rotten foundation can only produce rotten fruits and those rotten fruits will eventually become poisonous.
no wonder illness is prevalent in our society.
people are producing poison and wondering why the fruits of their labor are making them unhappy.
simple. it is because the foundation is rotten.
when i looked at my life i saw that everything i was doing was being done from a place of fear and scarcity. from a place of I am not enough.
2019 was a year of building. a year of recreating a belief system (foundation) on I am enough.
and there is no better place to do this than around the people you grew up with, your family.
family has a way of triggering us. they project onto us the image that they have of us and this is the image that they created and by default, we have lived out for so long.
the most growth i have ever experienced happened when i decided i was going to stop buying into the projections of my family.
and i did this by allowing their triggers to help me dig deep within myself.
triggers are real during the holiday season. families get together and it brings up a lot in us. we let things slide that we feel we shouldn’t and then get angry about it later on.
don’t let shit slide. use this time to stand up for yourself and set some serious boundaries. if you don’t change the way YOU relate to people, they will never change the way they behave towards you.
this becomes a beautiful challenge.
just because people choose to live their lives on a foundation that is rotten doesn’t mean you have to. nor do you have to participate in their illusions.
let the truth set you free.
let it be your guide. speak your truth and let it do its honors.
the truth has a way of breaking shackles… even amongst those who are most in denial.
and triggers have a way of bringing us closer to ourselves so when you do get triggered (and you will) take a moment to yourself. understand that people are under heavy programming and ask yourself where you are still programmed. after all, it is the ego that gets offended.
take deep breaths. go into your heart and call in your inner child. sit with it and comfort it. you are not the projections of others.
as you let the truth set you free, you are letting it set everyone free.
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