how faking it always backfires on you

when no one is watching …⁣

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how do you spend your time? how do you treat the people you love? how do you feel about yourself? how does your space make you feel? how do you show up when people need you? ⁣

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in this social media era, it is very easy to present our lives the way we choose to. ⁣

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i have watched as people curate perfect pictures when their life is nearly falling apart. ⁣

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this is no shade. ⁣

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mental health is a real thing. curating and documenting your life is beautiful, but is it an accurate representation of what is happening? or are you capturing moments that you aren’t actually experiencing? ⁣

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karma works in a way in which when you aren’t being true to yourself, it will show you how. ⁣

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the lies catch up to you, you can’t outrun the truth. ⁣

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i find that life becomes so much easier when you’re honest. everyone has something that they haven’t quite balanced. we all have baggage we’re working through. sometimes when we drop all the baggage, we cruise for a while. life is easy and beautiful until we reach the next mountain that needs to be climbed. ⁣

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the climb is always hard, the descent is always beautiful. life’s challenges come in waves. we aren’t always happy. we aren’t always sad. ⁣

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there is a type of pressure you put on yourself when you expect your life to be flawless. not only does it impact your life, but it impacts the lives of those closest to you. ⁣

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when you place your happiness in the hands of something outside of you (social acceptance, approval, validation) it will haunt you. ⁣

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when you are fabricating a story to control how others perceive you, you are navigating dangerous grounds. this is what leads to depression and other mental instabilities. ⁣

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let’s get into the energetics of why. ⁣

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let's say you are living a life that IS congruent with your online presence and someone comes along and sends you negative energy. maybe, something you post triggers deep-rooted insecurity within this person: energetically because you aren’t on that vibration of lack, that energy boomerangs its way right back to that person. ⁣

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when you are standing in your truth, that shit doesn’t affect you. ⁣

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but lets say that whatever you are posting is completely incongruent with how you are feeling. and the truth is that you feel like shit and you just want people to think you are having a great/fun time. if that same person comes along and gets triggered by your post and sends you negative energy, it’ll add fuel to your misery because you will be a match for it energetically. ⁣

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i’ve been both the experiencer and the witness and i’ve realized that the internet is not a place to manipulate for your attention needs to be met. that shit will backfire. ⁣

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when i’m having a shitty day, i just say it. if i want to post about it then i do. i’m usually someone who likes to process things before i post about it online but i’ve realized that even the small act of saying “this day has been shitty” gives people the opportunity to support you.⁣

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and people want to support you, but they can only do it if you allow them to. ⁣

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moral of the story: be real. how you are, when no one is watching you. it’s enough. ⁣

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#getoutthetrap ⁣