how seeking approval and validation blocks us off from divine guidance
- Salma Summers
- Nov 11, 2019
- 3 min read
its so interesting how signs show up in my life these days.
the messages are so obvious, it is mind-blowing.
everything in life is a sign. if you pay close enough attention, you can see things very clearly. especially if you pay attention to how things make you feel. when you listen to how you feel over everything else, the next step for you makes itself clear. and as you follow these steps you quickly start to realize that nothing is coincidental.
there is however one bad habit that blocks us off from clear and obvious divine guidance. and that is seeking approval.
when we are seeking approval and looking to be validated, we don’t realize that we shut off our emotions. we overpower the most vulnerable parts of ourselves to get this need for approval met.
and in a sense, we send the message to our emotions that they don’t matter or aren’t valuable.
creating this never-ending cycle of looking outside of ourselves for something that can only be found within.
i want to let you in on a little secret.
that took me a long time to fully understand even though i knew it intuitively at a very young age.
no one can do for you, what you aren’t doing for yourself.
meaning no one can validate you if you don’t already validate yourself. no outside approval will override the disapproval that you have for yourself.
this is so so so big.
you can have the most loving amazing people around you, who tell you how valuable you are every single day of your life, and it still won’t mean shit if you don’t feel the same way about yourself.
and what is even crazier is that when you start to see your own value, life becomes like a game. and ironically, you end up not being so focused on yourself anymore.
approve of yourself and you no longer care about approval. like yourself and you won’t care about people liking you. and even more counter-intuitive is the notion that when you take care of your own needs all you want to do is find ways to serve others.
and the service you provide others, really, in turn, takes care of you.
you can’t do any of this from a space of lack though. you can’t try to serve the needs of others if you aren’t serving yourself first. you won’t even know where to begin.
it truly is a great paradox. serving yourself IS serving others.
when you listen to your feelings/needs and take care of them, you are on the frequency of value. and only value can create more value. from this space, you start to get what they call “inspiration.”
and inspiration leads you to your next step in life and you keep on following the inspiration (guidance) and all of a sudden life becomes easy and effortless.
and the relationships you want to start to flow in.
your creativity starts to flow in.
the money starts to flow in.
the answers and solutions start to flow in.
but it all begins in deciding that you value yourself. that you are deserving. that you are stronger than the program. that you won’t feed into the lies and false beliefs (not anyone else’s but first and foremost, NOT your own). and that you are worthy of a life of abundance.
you don’t have to know how this is possible, you just have to want it enough to do what it takes.
pay attention to how you feel and start to listen. this is the first step in creating space for divine guidance and inspiration. the rest will show up after.
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