how to access the control center within you to change your life
- Salma Summers
- Jun 9, 2020
- 3 min read
it’s not the outside that counts, it’s the inside.
this truth is so profound yet so simple.
simple doesn’t make it easy to comprehend or live by.
everything that is happening on the outside is dictated by a control center that is within you.
in theory that sounds light and easy to understand but in practice it may be the most difficult thing to implement.
our programs of people-pleasing and self-sabotage make it nearly impossible to live by this truth.
we look to the outside for validation, to see if we are doing this thing called life “right.”
from the very beginning, we have been taught that our emotions are not as important as what the collective has going on. we were taught that fitting in is much better than standing out and to just go along with the status quo.
do you see why this makes it very difficult to access that control center within you?
getting out the trap is accessing the control center within yourself to create the life that you desire.
this means you have to give up caring how others perceive you while you change your whole world from within.
this means you have to envision something that is not here yet and hold on to that vision regardless of what is happening on the outside.
this looks like getting into the guilt and fear and shame that says you can’t and transmuting it using the powers of the elements that reside within you.
this means having faith and believing in what can’t be seen.
you know, according to science, only ten percent of what we see comes from our eyes. the other 90 percent comes from this control center within our psyche.
how you perceive yourself and how you perceive the world plays a big part in what you actually experience in life.
so how do you access this control center?
by paying attention to how you feel.
your emotions are a direct response to what you are thinking.
thoughts + feelings eventually become the beliefs that are fueling this control center and in turn creating your reality (or how you see reality).
a little hack that has helped me is looking at myself in the mirror and saying positive affirmations.
it’s not the positive affirmations that work for me, it is noticing what comes up when i say these affirmations.
so, observe what comes up for you when you are affirming the things you desire.
it’s important that you say these affirmations in the present tense.
for example, i am making (insert $ amount you desire) a day/week/month and it feels amazing.
now observe the thoughts that come up for you when you say that in the mirror and make note of them - this is how you access your control center.
all your beliefs reside here.
without access to these beliefs, you will continue to create the life that you are living.
once you access these beliefs, you can rewrite your story.
but it takes the willingness to sit with the discomfort of all the garbage you’ve been programmed with.
when things come up to the surface, in the form of emotions that are uncomfortable - this is when you know you have an opportunity to rewrite a belief in your control center.
don’t be afraid of being bothered by your emotions.
if they are coming up, that means they are showing themselves to you for a purpose.
allow them, feel them, and then send them on their way.
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