masked connections.

life is much simpler when your own self importance goes out the window. who cares if i stutter. who cares if im sweating bullets. who cares if i can’t articulate a full sentence. we have all been there. at the place where we are constantly overthinking about how we are being perceived. being human isn’t a condition, it is what we are here to experience. here to experience all the glory that we can find in the limitations that we face daily.

there comes a time however, when you can laugh at it all. how awkward you feel when you seem to not be able to connect with someone. something is blocking you both from seeing each other. perhaps it is the masks we wear? maybe that is the reason we can’t connect. some people see right through the mask and love you regardless. but most of the world wants validation for their own false mask. and when you can’t give that to them because you too have a mask that you want to be validated as well… the result becomes shallow superficial conversations that don’t meet our need for connection.

when you see yourself falling for the drama of looking for validation, remember that you are already valid. when you affirm to yourself “i am valid” the false mask no longer feels pressured to hold on. it falls away and by doing so you give the person you are with the opportunity to let their mask fall away as well.

masks are an interesting concept. they are our egos. they are our armour. they tell us that they are there to protect us. however, the same armour that protects us also blocks us off from true human connection. this isn’t something we desire, it is something we need. our livelihood depends on our ability to open up and share intimacy with others. Brene Brown says you can’t choose some emotions without feeling the whole spectrum. for example you can’t have joy, happiness, connection, without looking at your shame and anger.

emotions are vulnerable because many of us don’t know how to navigate them. we don’t take accountability for how we are feeling. we would much rather blame an external event for causing us pain. the thing is the experiences that come into our lives are not caused by random forces outside of us, they are caused by us.

the cause is what is always coming back to us. and if we are only focused on the effect (the experience), we become victims/slaves of our own doing. however if we look at our emotions, look at our beliefs about ourselves and the world and we look at our feelings, we can then move towards changing those things.

we have ultimate control. we are not puppets in this game of life. we are creators. and what we are creating is based off what we think, believe and feel. when we feel that no one understands us, that is a belief. when we feel that people are against us, that is a belief. when we feel that life is hard, that is a belief. when we feel we are alone, that is a belief.

now lets imagine a life where you feel supported, loved, financially abundant, healthy, vibrant and doing what you absolutely love every single day. doesn’t that feel so much lighter? the choice is presented to us daily, our only job is to CHOOSE.

#getoutthetrap