the key to embracing life's mess.

i really really didn't feel like writing today. when i make it this difficult on myself, i find that it becomes so fucking hard to let it flow. i guess there is a part of me hiding and running from the lack of perfection my life is displaying right now.⁣

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i don’t want to accept the messy. and the great paradox is that when i accept the messy, the mess cleans itself up. i don’t even have to do any work. the answers just start to flow in.⁣

like in this moment ... i surrendered and opened myself up to spirit and now the words i have been searching for, are finding me.

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this is actually how all of life works. when we hold on to something, we constrict the flow of energy. this kills us slowly. this causes massive suffering and a desire to constantly escape our current reality. ⁣

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if we don’t feel good at this moment, good feelings won’t come in 5 minutes or 5 days or even 5 years. ⁣

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we have to choose to feel good. ⁣

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again, another great paradox in life is the moment you stop trying to feel good, you can let things come up and by surrendering to these things, you then feel good. ⁣

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imagine holding your breathe and then expecting to live. this isn’t possible now, is it? but this is what we do when we expect ourselves to be perfect or when we expect ourselves to have it all figured out or when we tell ourselves we don’t need support. ⁣

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we suffocate ourselves and then wonder why we aren’t happy. ⁣

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when we surrender to the moment something magical happens. it is almost like God sweeps in and gives us back our breath. ⁣

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everyone struggles. everyone faces obstacles. the difference between those who are abundant and those who aren’t is that abundant people surrender. ⁣

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they know their limitations and more important than anything else, they know when they need to ask for help.⁣

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we have been conditioned to believe that asking for help is the epitome of showing weakness. this, however, is the furthest thing from truth. to ask for help is to show humility and a person's strength can actually be measured by how humble they are. ⁣

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weak people pretend to be strong.⁣

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strong people are HONEST about their weaknesses. ⁣

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we all have weaknesses and to pretend that we don’t is to suffer. ⁣

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there is so much strength in being honest about our weaknesses and then asking people to help us with whatever it is we need. when we ask for help we are acknowledging that others have something to give and that we are willing to receive. ⁣

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i find that the strongest people i have studied in life have been people who are radically honest about how much they need others.⁣

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these people aren’t afraid to ask questions. they aren’t afraid of not knowing. they know that life is a progressive journey that is constantly unfolding. that they aren’t the center of it rather one piece of a huge puzzle. ⁣

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i find that the most trustworthy people are those who know that the mess is part of life. going through it is guaranteed but we never have to go through it alone. ⁣

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the human condition is so strange. we are all the same yet we hide our most intimate truths from one another. as if we aren’t all feeling these same emotions, these same feelings. maybe not all at the same time, but everyone feels everything. ⁣

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shame festers up and multiplies in secrecy. ⁣

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so don’t be a victim to something that wants to destroy you. speak up and seek help. ⁣

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know that your circumstances/experiences don’t have to be your reality but they are a part of this life journey. ⁣

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and more than anything, you aren’t in this alone. to think you are is one of the hardest lives to live and later on, many years from now, you will realize that pride is what kept you from being honest. ⁣

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life is so much better when we can speak the truth and recognize that we aren’t alone in the hardships that we face. ⁣

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#getoutthetrap⁣