what do you need?

there is an interesting reality that comes forth when you step away from the fear of not having your needs met. ⁣

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when our needs aren’t met we feel the need to rummage everything to get them met. we don’t understand how that impacts the people in our lives and we don’t care. we are on a mission. we are constantly manipulating others to meet our needs. we don’t know how to access these needs or how to really ask for what we need. so we don’t. and this makes it impossible for us to see anyone else. ⁣

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on the flip side, we are too invested in other people’s lives. it is almost like we have a contract with others to keep ourselves in a constant loop of distraction. we are looking to see what people are up to (online or off) all the time. we have this insatiable need to inquire about what’s happening in the world. we do anything to distract ourselves from looking at what we are doing and more so, why. this would require some serious introspection and honesty. it would require us to take accountability for our lives and what or who is in them. ⁣

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we are afraid of what will come if we just let go. what if we do find true freedom and we realize that the whole time it was right in front of our faces but we couldn’t access it because our hands were tied up holding a bunch of shit? that’s a heavy price to pay for an ego that has been conditioned away from freedom. it won’t accept it easily.⁣

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i find that the more time i spend around the people in my life, the more i get redirected to doing what is in my heart. and usually what is in my heart takes a consistent showing up on my part. there is a part of me that is afraid of going at life alone. and i know that technically it isn’t possible for me to be alone (we are always connected to all). but i also know that my path is my path to walk. people can support me in the process but they can not walk it for me.⁣

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we put too many expectations on people because we don’t know how to take responsibility. anytime we are evading responsibility, we fall into expecting things from others. it is no one’s responsibility to meet a need that i have. however, it is my responsibility to seek help meeting a need if it requires someone else. what we tend to do is expect people to meet our needs (especially emotional needs) without ever asking for support. this causes most of the friction we see in todays relationships. ⁣

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i wonder to myself, what would happen if we got radically honest about what we are needing. what if we sat down with ourselves, slowed down, and asked the very profound question, what am i needing? what do i need right now? most of the time what we are needing is a simple reminder that we are enough. that our value is intact. and that we are .. okay. ⁣

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#getoutthetrap⁣