GETTING UNCOMFORTABLY & RADICALLY HONEST

you know what’s crazy? all the freedom we seek can be found in being true to ourselves.⁣

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but being true to ourselves requires radical honesty. ⁣

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which … can get pretty uncomfortable. ⁣

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and you know humans, anything and everything is cool until shit gets uncomfortable and awkward. ⁣

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then we are all looking for the nearest exit. ⁣

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but what if freedom meant discomfort?⁣

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if you didn’t say what you didn’t mean and you didn’t do what you didn’t want to, how would your life look?⁣

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because our conditioning tells us that being a good person means sacrificing. ⁣

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and sacrificing means putting up with bullshit because that’s what good people do. ⁣

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but this is complete and utter lies. ⁣

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firstly, there are no good people. there are people… who have good and bad moments. ⁣

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and then there are irresponsible people and responsible people. ⁣

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responsible people, work through their stuff in appropriate ways so that they aren’t dumping and projecting their stuff all around town. ⁣

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irresponsible people dump their stuff and complain all day long about why shit isn’t working out and why their life sucks. ⁣

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people who are drawn to self-help work are usually people who are tired of being irresponsible. ⁣

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i mean we’ve all been there. complaining about life until we have a serious breakdown (aka spiritual breakthrough) and decide we are done with our own shit. ⁣

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but usually what happens after this point is we have to do some cleaning up work. after we realize that life is all love and light, we quickly realize that most people aren’t loving or in light and this causes our “spiritual” asses to spiral.⁣

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“why don’t they just get it? i am not the same person i used to be. why do they treat me like that? why do they complain and talk so much shit? why don’t they just choose to do something about their lives” … and the story continues. you get it.⁣

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but why are you worried about what they choose to do? ⁣

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it is because a part of you is afraid and wants to take them with you on this journey. but this is a solo journey and no one is coming who doesn’t want to come. and a lot of people you know don’t want to come, in fact, they will dismiss you as the “crazy” one. ⁣

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and this is okay, there are some tremendous lessons to be learned from the people in our lives who we feel are not “awakened.” ⁣

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they trigger us (read yesterday's post about triggers here), and they eventually help us do some serious clearing out of our own programming. ⁣

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we don’t have to make irresponsible people responsible. we also, don’t have to take responsibility for them. we don’t have to do anything besides get radically honest. be honest about how we feel and what we need. ⁣

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and this is when the discomfort comes up because our ego likes to play that passive-aggressive bs game of “i’m not going to say what i actually mean, i am just going to act weird until you guess.”⁣

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that’s not gonna slide anymore. and we all play that game until we realize it doesn’t serve us at all.⁣

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it is a whole lot easier to just be honest. not easy for our conditioning but that is what we are working on releasing. when we do this, we no longer give other egos room to play strange games either. ⁣

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you set a new standard. ⁣

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an honest one. ⁣

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and people can either step up or fall back. but that’s not your decision to make for them. ⁣

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you just have to keep choosing honesty for yourself. ⁣

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#getoutthetrap⁣